pet peeve

So, normally I am a pretty positive person, but tonight I don't feel very optimistic. I can't stop thinking about my biggest pet peeve...and that is when people stop being who you've always known them to be. Whether this is because they get really busy or get a big promotion, start making lots of money, have a baby, get a boyfriend or get married...I think it is all crappy! Don't get me wrong, I have been through a lot of these life changing events too. But I am still the same person I was in high school. Ok, obviously I have learned and grown quite a bit-but I am still ALWAYS open, honest (even bluntly so sometimes), and true to my friends. I would never let one of my friendships slide because I was going through personal changes. I get so frustrated because I feel like I am always trying so hard to keep in touch with all my friends, local and long distance. I care soooo deeply about everyone that I call my "friend". Maybe my problem is that I care too much sometimes when I should just take things lightly, I take them seriously...but that is just me. I need to learn not to get hurt by little things like this, but why is it that friendships have to fade as more facets of life get introduced? My mom would say that this is just one more part of growing up and becoming an adult-but I disagree with that. Things don't have to change in this way. Of course we are all going to grow up and get married, have kids and sometimes it is hard to understand what my single friends are still going through, but that doesn't mean that for one second I won't try to understand....don't I deserve the same courtesy?